From getting things done to de-escalating awkward situations in public — here are a bunch of ways you can take control of the situation.
You can make subtle adjustments in behavior or the environment that can gently nudge people along the way you want.
Whether it's making decisions during a decision or attempting to win an argument, Redditors banded together and shared tricks they've learned over the years that may — or may not — help sway certain decisions your way.
- Don't make it about you, make it about them: Do not apologize for the inconvenience, thank them for their patience.
- Getting angry? A glance in the mirror might calm you down: This is common in airports and in some stores, but having a mirror behind the cashier/receptionist often stops people from being angry because once you start to see what you look like angry you begin calming down.
- Give others the illusion of choice: When it´s hard to convince someone to do something: give them options. That way they feel like they are in control. "You could do A or do you prefer B?"
- Silence is a powerful tool: 4 seconds of silence can feel the same as rejection in the brain. So if some one is being a jerk to you, after they say something just look at them and count to 4 in your head, most of the time they'll start backtracking and taking back what they said before you're done counting.
- Kill them with kindness: Diffusing a situation and being nice and chill gets you further when someone is being mean to you instead of blowing up. Don't be a pushover by any means, stand your ground. But be nice. Make it had for them to hate you.